Aaj hum baat kar rahe hain ek aise topic par jo har ghar, har maa-baap ka hissa hai — “Bacchon ka Gussa”
Gussa sirf ek emotion hai, jaise khushi, dukh ya excitement.
Par jab hamare chhote se bache ko gussa aata hai, toh hum ghabra jaate hain, pareshan ho jaate hain ya kabhi kabhi khud bhi gussa kar baithte hain.
Lekin kya aap jaante hain?
Gussa ek “signal” hota hai, ek “cry for help”.
Bacha keh nahi sakta – “Mujhe attention chahiye”, “Mujhe kuch samajh nahi aa raha”, “Main thak gaya hoon” – isliye woh gussa ho jaata hai.
👶 Bacchon ka gussa samajhne ke 10 soft & real reasons:
1- Unki feelings ke liye words nahi hote.
Jab ek 4 saal ka bacha thak jaata hai ya confuse hota hai, toh woh chillata hai ya zameen pe late jaata hai. Kyunki uske paas apni feelings express karne ka tareeka nahi hota.
2- Unhe control ka ehsaas chahiye.
Jab bache har cheez ke liye "No" sunte hain, toh woh powerless mehsoos karte hain. Gussa ek tareeka hota hai “control” dikhane ka.
3- Woh testing phase me hote hain.
Har age pe bache boundary test karte hain – “Agar main cheekhu toh kya hoga?”, “Mummy mujhe kaise react karegi?”
4- Unki needs unmet hoti hain.
Neend, bhookh, boredom ya overstimulation – ye sab chhoti chhoti needs jab fulfill nahi hoti, toh gussa nikalta hai.
5- Unhe safe jagah chahiye apna emotion dikhane ke liye.
Bacha sirf unke saamne gussa karta hai jinke saath woh sabse safe feel karta hai – haan, wahi mummy papa!
6- Unhone gussa dekh ke seekha hota hai.
Agar ghar me ya media me bacha gussa dekh raha hai (shouting, hitting), toh woh usi pattern ko follow karta hai.
7- Woh help maang rahe hote hain.
Bacchon ka gussa aksar ek “Help Me” message hota hai – chahe woh school me kisi se hurt hua ho, ya ghar me ignore mehsoos kar raha ho.
8- Woh samajhna chahte hain ki aap unke saath ho.
Gusse ke dauraan agar hum react karte hain, toh woh aur zyada defensive ho jaata hai. Agar hum soft rehte hain, toh unka gussa dissolve ho jaata hai.
9- Woh apna “power button” dhundh rahe hote hain.
Bache kabhi kabhi gusse se apni identity, choice aur decision dikhane ki koshish karte hain.
10- Woh emotionally mature nahi hote.
Brain development ke hisaab se 7 saal tak ke bache impulse control nahi seekhte – toh unka gussa natural hai.
❤️ Toh ab parents kya karein?
1- Gusse ke peeche ki need ko samjhein.
Jab bacha chillaye ya roye, turant react na karein – ek second rukkar sochiye: “Kya yeh bhookha hai? Thaka hua? Ignore feel kar raha hai?”
2- Soft tone ka use karein.
Jab aap calm rehte hain, toh bacha apne aap calm ho jaata hai. Aapka reaction uska reflection hota hai.
3- Uska gussa accept karein, par behaviour nahi.
Aap keh sakte hain – “Mujhe pata hai tum gussa ho, par maarna sahi nahi hai.”
4- Usse express karna sikhayein – bachon ko apne emotions shabdon mein bayaan karna sikhana ek gift jaisa hota hai.
Chhote bachon ke paas shabdon ka wo bhandar nahi hota jisse woh apni feelings ko acche se vyakt kar saken. Jab unhe gussa aata hai, toh aksar woh chillane lagte hain, cheezein phek dete hain ya chup ho jaate hain – kyunki unhe samajh hi nahi aata ki apne gusse ko kaise express karein.
Humein unhe alternative sentence patterns sikhane chahiye jaise:
"Mujhe yeh baat pasand nahi aayi"
"Main abhi thoda gussa hoon"
"Mujhe aise baat karna achha nahi laga"
"Mujhe lag raha hai aap mujhe nahi samajh rahe"
In tarikon se jab bacha apne gusse ko tameez se aur shabdon ke zariye dikhana sikhega, toh uska confidence bhi badega aur aapke saath connection bhi strong hoga.
Aap usse role play ke zariye bhi yeh sikhla sakte hain. Jaise, “Agar kabhi tumhara toy koi le jaye bina pooche, toh tum kya kehoge?” — is tarah ke situations dekar use practice karwaayein.
Sabse zaruri baat: Jab bacha shabd ke zariye apna gussa express kare, toh uski tareef karein. Kehna chahiye:
“Mujhe bahut accha laga tumne apne gusse ko shabdon mein bataya, bina chillaye.”
Iss se bachcha seekhta hai ki express karna galat nahi hai – bas kaise karna hai, woh zaruri hai.
5- Time-out nahi, time-in dein.
Gussa aane par use alag bhejna nahi, balki paas bithakar “kya hua, kya feel ho raha hai” puchhna.
6- Bedtime pe baatein karein.
Raat ko ek pyara moment banta hai jab aap puchh sakte ho – “Aaj kab tumhe gussa aaya?” Us waqt bacha safe feel karta hai.
7- Apne behaviour ka self-check karein.
Kahi hum hi toh chillakar, order dekar, ya compare karke uske gusse ko trigger nahi kar rahe?
8- Daily hugs aur attention dein.
10-minute ki undivided attention har din magic karti hai. Gussa kam hota hai jab bacha heard feel karta hai.
9- Gussa aane par safety rules batayein.
“Tum gussa ho sakte ho, par chhoti behan ya bhai ko nahi maar sakte. Chalo pillow pe gussa nikalte hain.”
10- Bacchon ka gussa ‘bad behaviour’ nahi, ek ‘feeling’ hai.
Jab hum is difference ko samajhne lagte hain, toh parenting transform hone lagti hai.
🌈 Final Thought – Ek Jazbaat Bhari Baat:
Bacchon ka gussa unki galti nahi hoti.
Woh ek silent scream hota hai – “Mujhe samjho, meri madad karo!”
Gussa unka emotion hai, aur har emotion ek message hota hai. Jab woh chhoti baaton par rooth jaate hain, cheekh jaate hain, ya choti choti baaton par gussa karte hain — toh woh sirf itna kehna chahte hain:
"Main bhi matter karta hoon."
Jab aap unke gusse ke peeche chhupi unki chhoti chhoti feelings ko samjhne ki koshish karte hain,
jab aap unhe daantne ke bajaye gale laga lete hain,
jab aap unhe sikhate hain ki gusse ka matlab yeh nahi ki tum bure ho – bas confused ho, overwhelmed ho…
Toh aap unhe ek gift dete hain —
🎁 Emotional Strength ka gift
🎁 Samajhdaari ka gift
🎁 Zindagi ke har rishte mein patience ka gift
Aur jab aapka chhota sa bacha ek din bada hoke kisi mushkil moment mein apna gussa control kar payega,
jab woh kisi par chillane ke bajaye calmly apne emotions express karega,
jab woh kisi chhoti si baat ko tolerate karke dusron ke liye gentle ban payega...
Toh uske dil mein ek chehra zaroor aayega –
👩👧👦 Aapka.
Us maa ya pita ka chehra, jisne use sirf padhaya nahi,
jeena sikhaya.
💖 Aaj ka chhota sa task:
Shaam ko jab baccha zidd kare ya gussa ho jaye, usse daantne ke bajaye, sirf yeh kahiyega:
👉 “Main tumse pyaar karta hoon, chaahe tum gusse me ho ya khush. Mujhe batao kya hua?”
Dekhiye, uske chhote se dil me ek bada sa farak padta hai. 🌈
Best Regards
The Base School Team
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